Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Silence is Complicity

"Silence becomes cowardice when occasion demands speaking out the whole truth and acting accordingly"

-Mahatma Gandhi

I have seen a lot of news articles of the Larry Nassar trial and heard the testimony and also the fact that many people knew what he was doing to these girls and yet they stayed quiet and told no one. Its sickening and disgusting.

And its not just this case. In my opinion, in  the majority of sex abuse cases regarding children,  someone either knows or has a "feeling" that the child is being abused. And yet more often than not,  no one speaks up. They turn the other cheek. Maybe out of fear of retribution, maybe they think they might be wrong and wrongly accuse someone, or maybe they just don't want to be involved. Either way, if you suspect a child is being abused and there are signs or credible evidence and you don't make any effort to help that child,  then you are complicit in sexual abuse and you should be charged just like the abuser. Now that might seem harsh but keep in mind the damage and hell that a child is put through from being sexually abused. Even after the abuse ends physically,  it never goes away mentally. The damage is done for the rest of their life.

And I speak from experience on this. When i was being sexually abused,  there were multiple signs that family, friends of my family and teachers saw. My grades went from straight A's to failing. I went from perfect attendance to not wanting to go to school. And the main sign: I started being afraid of men. I was 7 when it began and no one ever stepped in. Never. I was 9 when it ended and after he was out of my family's life and ONLY after,  did family and friends start coming forward with their suspicions . I felt and still feel betrayed to this day. It could have been stopped. But no one said anything.

That's why I am so passionate about this subject. Children are the most vulnerable in our society and it's our job to protect them from harm. And when we stay silent and look the other way, the consequences are catastrophic. Doing the right thing is a lot easier than the aftermath of doing nothing at all.

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